“Tis Better to Have Loved & Lost” (and Other Nonsense)
Dear P.S. I Love You readers,
Ultimately, Tennyson was probably right: It is better — on a variety of levels — to have experienced and lost something great than to have never experienced that great thing at all.
But there’s a sort of in-between that follows the loss and preempts the appreciation part, which Tennyson doesn’t really lend credence to. And when you’re in that in-between, well, his consolation starts to feel like some bullshit.
Most of the stories we’re sharing this week focus on that in-between state. The shock that accompanies the permanent loss of a loved one. The self-doubt that accompanies the loss of companionship.The evaporation of trust. The sudden, awful understanding of the word “forever.”
I hope you are as moved and as touched by the honesty and bravery on display in this week’s collection as I was. Make sure to show the authors some love on their pieces. Medium needs more writing like this.
Oh, also, wanted to let you all know that we finalized a new set of submission guidelines for writers hoping to publish their work in P.S. I Love You. You can read the guidelines here.
- Keep Me in Your Heart for a While Meg Furey. A nuanced yet blistering essay about the loss of the author’s grandmother, and the final days the two spent together in the hospital
- Hiraeth Angiest In Seattle. A genre-bending meditation about home, what it means to not have one, and the feelings of longing, regret and sadness that no longer having a home can kindle inside you.
- Before you Leave Danna Colman. An intense short story written with passion and pain that takes the reader directly inside the moment when two lovers are forced to part.
- How to survive heartbreak without self-sabotage Joanna Townsend. A remarkably personal essay in which the author details both the breakup that humbled here and how exactly she put herself back together in the months and years that followed.
- Freestyle Jessica Semaan. A poem that is not exactly about loss, but about a relationship that has the potential to result in as much, tinged as it is by confusion and uncertainty. I think of it as a purplish sort of dusk before the darkness.
That’s all for now. Until next week, #OneLove.
PS: I love THIS — our new feature page: “Loneliness, and Loss.” Check it out, let us know what you think!