Today I had a stunning epiphany that blew my mind. It’s actually really simple, and I know I probably heard it from somewhere, but this haunted me today.
The reason she let me go is because I let myself go.
I’m not sure if it’s just me, but I felt like near the middle of my relationship, I stopped putting in effort. I guess the mentality was more like, ‘Oh, it’s alright, I already got her, and it’s not like she’s going anywhere’. I suppose that’s a decent mentality for a little boy, but today I realized that it should not be a thought that crosses the mind of anyone above the age of twenty.
By saying that, not only am I not respecting myself enough to care about myself, but I am also disrespecting my partner because I stopped putting in effort. It’s regardless if it was the effort in the relationship, or in yourself. When a person stops caring, it’s basically telling their partner, “I’m so comfortable with you (biggest excuse of life), that I no longer feel the need to put in the bare minimum effort to look good when we hang out.
Look (and I’m talking to future Alex), I know it’s not necessary. I know you’re not trying to impress anyone else. Do it to impress her. Never stop putting in effort. The moment that you stop, is the moment you stop respecting her. Don’t do that again dude! Remember reader, always take care of yourself first, so that you can begin to think about caring for someone else.