Being in a relationship is amazing right? Going on dates, cooking together, long walks on the beach, all that good stuff. As most of you know, I’ve been working on recovering from the end of a three year relationship. Like most recently single people, I was pining over all the amazing things that went on during our three year relationship.
However, as the old adage goes, ‘time heals a broken heart’. Of course a month ago, I would’ve said that it was complete bs, and that I’m never going to stop missing her. But as time passes, and more and more of our memories scurry back to the past, I started thinking about her less. I started keeping myself busy more. I started doing things that I enjoy more. And now that school is over (basically), I’ve also been spending a lot more time with friends.
I’ve realized that there is a certain sense of liberation to being single, especially in your early twenties. Because the simple fact is, I no longer have to consider another person when making decisions anymore. If I meet someone, I don’t have to hesitate and think, ‘I wonder if she will be okay with me befriending this person’. I no longer have to balance between time with family and friends, and time with her. When I’m busy with school work, or just doing hobbies, I no longer have to commit a certain amount of time each day to stop and talk to her.
Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE doing all those things. I love being in love. It’s amazing. But clearly I’ve haven’t been living a part of my life to the fullest. Quite honestly, I’m starting to experience the liberation from being single. The freedom to be me. The freedom to determine and plan my own future, and not ‘our’ future. There isn’t a set agenda anymore to do things because there’s no rush to get married anymore. Everything suddenly slowed down. And I think that I’m starting to really enjoy it!
Remember reader, it’s really true, time really does mend a broken heart. If you’re experiencing heart-break right now, try thinking about the brightside, and focus on yourself more. You can have just as enjoyable of a time being single (at least for now).
When we don’t have to consider anyone else, is when we can truly focus on creating the best versions of ourselves that we can be.